Are You Happy with Your Life?

Blue_Ridge_Parkway-27527Are You Happy with Your Life?

[Article via Psychology Today. Click above for full post]

Have you ever created a goal, reached it, became content, and then went looking for the next best thing? It’s interesting to see how quickly our lives adjust. We get our dream job and soon enough we start wondering when the promotion comes. We get accepted into school and then it becomes about getting good grades. We get a new house and then a few years later we start dreaming of the next dream house. We so quickly adjust our realities and constantly create “new normals.”

Sometimes we get so lost in getting to our destination that we lose sight of the process. The climb becomes so grueling that we wonder why we even began the climb in the first place. It feels like life will constantly challenge us and test our resilience, our purpose, and our strength.

We all have different goals for ourselves – different mountains to climb. Someone’s climb may be about sobriety; someone else’s may be about weight; someone else’s may be about finding a passion. Sometimes we may think we reached the top of the mountain, but in reality, it was just the base of another one. If we were shown the top of the big mountain we had to climb all at once, we would be intimidated. So instead, we have smaller mountains (smaller goals) that we’re given to climb with rest areas in between. Iyanla Vanzant says that there are curves in the road because if you were shown how long of a stretch you have left, you’d be intimated and never make it. Instead, there are curves that only show a little bit of the road at a time so you can just focus on that piece. So what’s the lesson? Focus on the piece that is in front of you. The better you do on this part of the climb, the better it will set you up for the next piece, whatever it is.

It’s easy to think that we’ve “made it” to the top of the mountain, but in reality, we just got to a plateau or a curve that we didn’t see from the perspective we were at. Our journey spans as long as we live and if we think we’ve made it, we may be limiting ourselves. As T.D. Jakes says,

“Don’t stop at where you are as if it were the destination, when in fact, in reality, it may be the transportation that brings you into that thing you were created to do.”

That is why some of us feel like we’re never happy. We tend to want to see things as a destination because it provides us a sense of certainty, finality, and accomplishment – as it should. However, there is another piece that often gets lost, which is that we’re always in a state of change. There is no singular destination, but multiple ones along a longer road. It’s not about wanting more, but being present for where we are. It’s never about the better job, kids, relationship, because the truth is there will always be something more…

[Rest of article is posted on Psychology Today. See below for link.]

Original article posted on Psychology Today. Read the rest of the post here at Psychology Today!

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Rubin Khoddam, PhD Clinical Psychology student at University of Southern California, founder of Psych Connection.

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